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Are Your Expectations Serving You Well?
by Doug Dickerson,posted Jul 16 2012 9:03AM
Oft expectations fails, and most oft there where it promises – William Shakespeare
A story is told of a young psychology student serving in the Army who one day decided to test a theory. Drawing kitchen duty, he was given the job of passing out apricots at the end of the chow line.
He asked the first few soldiers that came by, "You don't want any apricots, do you?" Ninety percent said "No." Then he tried the positive approach: "You do want apricots, don't you?" About half answered, "Uh, yeah. I'll take some." Then he tried a third test, based on the fundamental either/or selling technique. This time he asked, "One dish of apricots or two?" And in spite of the fact that soldiers don't like Army apricots, 40 percent took two dishes and 50 percent took one.
The story is a reminder of the power of expectations and how they serve you in leadership. A word of caution to leaders is not to neglect this important leadership component- staying abreast of the expectations of your customers and clients; not to mention those of your organizational team.
Denis Waitley said, “Our limitations and successes will be based, most often, on your own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon.” He’s right. So let’s probe a little deeper and be sure that the expectations you have are serving you well. Here are four questions for your consideration.
Are your expectations based upon reality? In leadership there is a fine line at times between expectations and reality. It is what Colin Powell refers to as the “ground truth” of measuring your current situation against the unvarnished truth as it exists. Expectations ought to be based on a blend of your current circumstances measured against future goals. Facing your expectations with this reality will keep you focused as you achieve your goals.
Are your expectations in harmony with your vision? While expectations must be grounded in reality they too must be in keeping with your vision. Do not sacrifice your vision because of your reality. The power of your expectations will carry you beyond your reality because it is a powerful motivator. Walt Disney said, “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” The power of your expectations will cause you to overcome any adversity if you put your mind and heart to it. Are your expectations vision based?
Are your expectations transferable? The buy-in of your expectations is critical. Have your expectations been articulated to and embraced by your team? John Maxwell was right when he said, “The people’s capacity to achieve is determined by their leader’s ability to empower.” The expectations of one has limited fulfillment. But when those expectations are embraced and enacted upon by your entire team, you will see a compound effect take place that will carry you to the next level. Make sure that your expectations have been transferred and received.
Are your expectations helping or hurting? Tony Robbins said, “People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals-that is, goals that do not inspire them.” Are your expectations inspiring others? Leaders must evaluate their expectations in light of how they meet organizational goals and if they are properly promoting the health of the organization. While strong expectations serve your organization well, unhealthy ones can have a negative impact. It is important that the leader get it right and that the expectations you promote are taking you in the right direction.