TOO MUCH PRAISE COULD BE BAD FOR YOUR CHILD? NOT TO ME!
A noted Psychologist claims the results of a new study show that praising your child in an exaggerated manner might do more harm than good. Stephen Grosz, author of The Examined Life, says saying something to your child like, "you're so clever" might cause to be unhappy because they feel they cannot meet the false expectation. He recommends bestowing compliments less frequently and using phrases that acknowledge the child for "trying really hard." In the study, psychologists from Columbia University asked about 130 students between ages ten and 11 to solve a number of math problems. Afterwards, some kids were told they did very well and were very clever, while others were told they did very well and that they must've tried really hard. Both groups of children were then given more difficult problems to solve, and researcher found that children who were told they were clever did not do as well as the others. (Daily Mail)
I think that praising your child is of such great value that it can make or break their spirit! It’s something all parents should do. Praise them from staying inside the lines while coloring, or for being creative and working outside the lines. Praise them for wearing matching clothes or for being brave enough to don stripes and checks.
Build them up! Many times, a parent is the ONLY one who will do so all day long!
Don’t be afraid to praise them; kindness is far too often taken for granted! But then again, I’m no psychologist…just a loving and blessed mom and YaYa!
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